You’ve been through a lot in your life. All the lessons you got from your past experiences pretty much sum up your emotional wisdom. You had those experiences and now you decide which one is the best to remember and use in your life.

Through your emotional wisdom, you get to know what feels good or not, what feels right or wrong, and even the direction you should be going. It also gives you hints when you need to improve.

In this article, we’ll explore four ways to help you gain more emotional wisdom.

1. Pay attention to how you feel.
Tuning in to your feelings and learning how to interpret them can make you gain emotional wisdom. By doing that, you can understand better what’s going on inside you. Whatever is going on inside you can have an effect on both your physical and mental well-being. Paying attention to your emotions will even help you manage stress better.

2. Trust in your ability to handle your emotions well.
Believe that you have the power to manage your reactions to different situations. You are way more capable than you thought you could be.

3. Give a thought to how you look at your emotions.
Reflect on how you see your emotions in an objective manner. Do your feelings match the situation where they came from? Do you justify your negative reaction as valid? 

4. Adjust your emotion to your current situation.
One sign of emotional wisdom is understanding your emotions, and modifying your reaction based on your circumstance. It takes practice, but when you learn how to do it, you can behave in any situation properly.

Paying attention to what you feel, trusting yourself that you can manage it well, and having the ability to adjust your behavior will make you gain more emotional wisdom. Thus, it can lead to a happier and healthier life where you can be a blessing to others.

Recommended books about emotional intelligence:

Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ
Daniel Goleman

The Language of Emotional Intelligence: The Five Essential Tools for Building Powerful and Effective Relationships
Travis Bradberry and Jean Greaves

Emotional Intelligence 2.0
Travis Bradberry and Jean Greaves

Go Suck a Lemon: Strategies for Improving Your Emotional Intelligence
Michael Cornwall

EQ Applied: The Real-World Guide to Emotional Intelligence
Justin Bariso

The EQ Difference: A Powerful Plan for Putting Emotional Intelligence to Work
Adele B. Lynn

The Emotional Intelligence Quick Book
Travis Bradberry and Jean Greaves