Managing Negative Energy in Your Life
Negativity affects us on every level. It could ruin our relationship with others, decrease work performance, and increase stress levels. How do you manage negative energy in your life?
- Give people the benefit of the doubt.
Past experiences can make or break a person. Either way, they have an effect on how someone behaves.
Perhaps you have a colleague at work whom you were close friends with. Things are amicable between you two despite aiming at the same managerial position. Then you suddenly notice that he’s getting hostile at you as the days go by.
He just probably has a tough time trusting workmates because of his experience in his past company. It could be that someone else took credit for his job well done for their own career advancement. And it made him skeptic of people’s intentions at work now.
Sometimes people’s behavior towards you doesn’t mean they have something against you. There is always a reason for every behavior. How about giving them the benefit of the doubt?
- Draw the line.
You’ll never be able to please everyone, that’s true. You’ll never be able to make everyone like you. As much as you would like to keep everyone around you happy, beware of those people who keep asking you for favors to the point of taking advantage of your kindness. That might keep you from focusing on your priorities— and even weaken your self-esteem.
Set clear boundaries and learn to say NO.
- Be grateful for what you have.
You can write down on your journal the list of things you are grateful for. This will help you set your mind that there are more things to be thankful for than things to stress and worry so much about.
Don’t forget to count your blessings. Seek ways to achieve more, yes. Wanting to do more isn’t always a bad thing. But being happy and thankful for what you have— instead of relentlessly complaining and whining— will inspire people around you to do the same. Before you know it, you will be exuding happiness and positivity that will rub off on others. too.
- Be proactive in finding solutions to your problems.
Whenever you encounter problems, take the steps needed to solve them. Actively seek for solutions. Prolonging your agony over them would just stress you out.
Be with people who would encourage and support you. It certainly makes a huge difference when you build relationships with people who have a positive mindset.
By managing negativity effectively, you can focus more on the things that you want to do. You will be happier. And you will see opportunities that you have initially missed out on.